Starting a relationship is always easy but maintaining it is a whole
different ball game. It's always advisable to try everything before
calling it quits
Relationships are not always merry, it also goes through a rough patch that determines whether you and your partner will make it or split. It's always advisable to try everything before calling it quits despite you thinking letting go is the best way.
Often times couples find themselves
within a vicious cycle that eventually tear them apart. In order to
break from the cycle, you need to understand the reasons your
relationship is not working out. Only then can you decide whether you
want to work things out or whether you should just let go. There are
many different reasons why your relationship might not be going as
planned, but the following five are the most common reasons for
relationship failure.
1. Picking faults
Lastly,
too often we tend to pick faults in our partner. It might be well
gestured, but expecting someone to change everything about themselves
makes them feel like they are unloved and even unwanted. Both partners
need to be a little tolerant and forgiving when it comes to each other’s
mistakes, and they should let go instead of harboring their feelings.
If you’re both constantly playing the blame game, then it’s unlikely
you’ll be able to break away from the vicious cycles that is tearing
your relationship apart.
2. Too much time
If
you’re spending every waking moment with each other, then get ready for
some serious problems. It’s natural that when we all need time for
ourselves. While you or your partner might love spending time with each
other, if both of you are scheduling time away from each other, your
relationship might be suffering.
3. Jealousy
Too
often one person in a relationship might start going a little green.
Jealousy can be related to someone else or even your own partner. While
this normally occurs because that person might be feeling distant,
insecure and threatened, it can have disastrous effects on a
relationship. The best way to deal with is to increase security in terms
of your relationship and within one’s own self.
4. Not enough time
If
one of you is always out doing your own thing, then it becomes hard to
feel close and connect. And that leads to one or both of you feeling
unloved. While many times you may feel like you just don’t have enough
time to give your partner but you should always try to take out time for
your partner or at least give them the attention they deserve once you
are with them.
5. Selfishness
Being
in a relationship means thinking about and taking care of someone other
than yourself. Additionally it means acting selflessly without
expecting return. Selfishness drives couples apart like nothing else.
Both partners need to be compromising and understanding in order to make
the relationship flourish.
Remember
that managing a relationship is a two way effort, both of you need to
make a conscious effort to make it work. Starting a relationship is
easy, maintaining it is a whole different ball game. Try to find out
which of these 5 reasons are threatening the survival of your
relationship and create a battle plan on how you want to handle the
situation.
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