this is blogreader lonita experince after lossing her pride as a woman, i couldnt edit it read and enjoy
Every one has his own unique experience
but for those ladies who are still young, untouched, under peer pressure and deciding whether or not to role with the boys, this write up is for you.
And for those ladies who are experienced
please kindly share your best advice
a. what will you do differently if u have a second chance.
b. what are you doing, now that you are wiser.
These Are The 16 Lessons I learned From Losing My Vir ginity.
1. Many teenage girls sleep with guys because they are
trying to find love, to find self-worth. But the catch is that
the more guys they sleep with, the less self-worth they
had.
2. Many girls think that if they really care about guys,
sex will bring them closer together. Indeed, sεx creates a
bond. However, 80 percent of the time, the physical int!
macy of first sεxμal relationship won’t last more than six
months .
3. Couples who want what is best for their relationship or
future marriage will have the patience to wait.
4. Most of the time, when a girl gives away her virg!nity,
she assumes the relationship will last forever. But study
of more than 10,000 women shows that when a girl loses
her virg!nity at that age at 14, she’ll probably have about
thirteen more lifetime sεxμal partners.
5. Teen s’εx frequently causes tension within families
because of the dishonesty that usually accompanies the
hidden int!macies. Relationships with friends are often
strained, and when things turn sour, the gossip and social
problems often become unbearable.
6. Everyone talks about how hard it is to say no to s’εx,
but no one tells you how hard it is when you say yes.
7. It is dangerous for a teenage girl to be sεxμally active.
Because a teenage girl’s reproductive system is still
immature, she is very susceptible to sεxμally transmitted
diseases.
8. In fact, early sεxμal activity is the number one risk
factor for cervical cancer, and the second is multiple
sεxμal partners. A girl’s body, like her heart, is not
designed to handle multiple sεxμal partners.
9.While a girl might plan on slεεping with only one guy,
she could be exposing herself to the STDs of hundreds of
people through a single act of intεrcoμrsε. Here’s how:
Scientists studied the sεxμal activity of a public high
school of about one thousand students. About half (573)
of the students had been sεxμally active, and most of
them had only been with one partner. However, when the
scientists
tracked the web of sεxμal activity among the students, it
was discovered that more than half of the sεxμally active
teens—without knowing it were linked together in a
network of 288 partners within the school! So if a girl
slept with a guy from this school, theoretically she could
be in bεd with one-fourth of the entire student body.
10.The emotional side effects of premarital s’εx are also
damaging to a young woman. One of the most common
consequences of teenage sεxμal activity is depression.
Girls who are sεxμally active are more than three times
as likely to be depressed as girls who are abstinent. In
fact, the condition has become so predictable that the
Journal of Preventive Medicine recommends to doctors:
“[Girls who are engaging in] sεxμal intεrcoμrsε should be
screened for depression, and provided with anticipatory
guidance about the mental health risks of these
behaviours. ”Even if a girl experiments with s’εx once,
research shows an increased risk of depression. Also,
consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for
sεxμally active girls (aged twelve to sixteen) is six times
higher than the rate for virg!ns.
11. Unfortunately, many young women search for
meaning only in relationships with guys, instead of with
God. It is not uncommon for a girl to have s’εx in order to
make a guy like her more or to encourage him to stay
with her. She may compromise her standards because
she is afraid of never being loved. Once he leaves her,
though, an emotional divorce takes place. A person’s
heart is not made to be that close to a person and then
separated.
12. Since teenage sεxμal relationships rarely last, the
girl’s sense of self-worth is often damaged. She may
conclude that if she looked better, he would have stayed
longer. This mentality can lead to harmful practices, such
as eating disorders. Or the disappointment she feels may
drive her into a state of self-hatred. Some young women
even begin to hurt their own bodies in an attempt to
numb the emotional pain. Such practices never solve the
problems, though. If she wants to be loved, she needs to
begin by loving herself.
13. In her heart, a girl who has been used knows it.
However, she may immediately jump into another sεxμal
relationship to escape the hurt. If she tries to boost her
self-esteem by giving guys what they want, then her self-
worth often ends up depending upon those kinds of
relationships. Her development as a woman is stunted
because without chastity she does not know how to
express affection, appreciation, or attraction for a guy
without implying something sεxμal. She may even
conclude that a guy does not love her unless he makes
sεxμal advances toward her. She knows that s’εx exists
without int!macy, but she may forget that int!macy can
exist without s’εx. A girl on this track usually feels
accepted initially, but that acceptance lasts only as long
as the physical plεasμrε.
14. Such a lifestyle will also take its toll on her ability to
bond. Here’s why: Sharing the gift of s’εx is like putting a
piece of tape on another person’s arm. The first bond is
strong, and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to another
person’s arm, and the bond will still work, but it will be
easier to remove. Each time this is done, part of each
person remains with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove
because the residue from the various arms interferes with
the tape’s ability to stick.
15. The same is true in relationships, because
neurologists have discovered that previous sεxμal
experiences can interfere with one’s ability to bond with
future partners. This does not mean that if a person is not
a virg!n on the wedding night, he or she will be unable to
bond with a spouse. It simply means that when we follow
God’s plan, we have the most abundant life possible. But
when we turn from his designs and break his
commandments, often we are the ones who feel broken
afterwards.
16 Spiritual. Sin cuts us off from God, and this is the
most serious consequence of premarital s’εx. After going
too far, many of us know all too well the cloud of guilt
that weighs on our hearts. The solution is not to kill our
conscience but to follow it to freedom. It is calling us, not
condemning us. Provided we repent, God will be there to
welcome us home and let us start over.
What this all means is that our bodies, our hearts, our
relationships, and our souls are not made for premarital
s’εx. We should wait to have x.
....what do you say?
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